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Help for a Heartache

Help for a Heartache

My mother-in-law, as a pastor’s wife, hosts ladies’ Bible studies regularly. She is currently working through a book called “Help! I’m a Woman!” This month’s lesson was on heartache, but she did most of it herself, using the book as a jumping-off place. Some sources for the material include Janet Treadway’s “Father, Please Heal My Broken Heart” and gotQuestions?org “How can I recover from a broken heart” and Beverly Mattox’s “Help! I’m a Woman!” This is what she presented to us (student version below):


A merry heart maketh a cheerful countenance: but by sorrow of the heart the spirit is broken.Proverbs 15:13

The dictionary defines heartbreak as “crushing grief, anguish, or distress.” While there are many causes, we know that the pain of a broken heart can be enormous.

There are many Biblical examples of those with a broken heart.

Nehemiah had been taken in the captivity of Jerusalem and was the cupbearer of the king. He asked concerning the condition of his homeland.

What was he told? Nehemiah 1:3

What was his reaction? Nehemiah 1:4

Nehemiah had never been sad in the presence of the king. (It is said that the cupbearer was not allowed to be sad in the king’s presence, and there could be a serious consequence.) What did the king say to him? Nehemiah 2:2

When our heart is broken, others know it as did the king.

In one day, Job lost his children, almost all worldly possessions, his health, and his means of livelihood. Through all his heartache, Job learned what all believers can learn – God is faithful and good and trustworthy.

David, a man after God’s own heart, suffered many heartbreaking circumstances. Each time, he recovered and was an even stronger man of God. Psalm 34 gives examples of how David overcame heartbreak by calling on the Lord.

What was his first step? Psalm 34:4

What assurance did David have? Psalm 34:18

What confidence did he have in the love of God? Psalm 34:19

Above all else, the one thing that gets you past all the pain that you are experiencing from a broken heart is prayer. Jesus is always there. Jesus IS your family and He IS your friend. He is your comfort in times of trouble and he is always there for you no matter what. Continual prayer to Him to guide you through this time of need will definitely strengthen you, not only emotionally, but spiritually. With continual prayer for strength and hope, you also strengthen your relationship with God. And, in turn, with a stronger relationship with God comes a more peaceful frame of mind. The heartache will soon wither away into a glorious new day of hope and endless possibilities.

As we turn to the Lord, we know:

The Lord is Strong; Do not Fear…

Psalm 73:26
2 Corinthians 12:9

We Can Trust the Lord for Deliverance and Healing…

Psalm 55:22
Psalm 147:3
Proverbs 3:5-6

We Are to Look Forward and Believe…

Romans 8:28
2 Corinthians 5:7

We realize our strength is in the Lord. Without Him there is no hope… with Him all things are possible. But how can we possibly heal our broken heart?

1. Recognize the pain and understand it is OK to hurt.

Sometimes we seek to cover the pain by ignoring it, but we cannot ignore it and think it will go away.

Understand it is OK to hurt. We try to push the hurt away, but we can’t. The hurt isn’t outside us – it’s inside. So, in our attempt to push the hurt away, we actually push the hurt deeper inside. We then can spend the rest of our life running from this suppressed hurt.

It is during this time that we need a lot of love, encouragement, and hope restored. We realize how frail we are and see our great need for God. We cannot heal without Him.

2. Seek the Healer.

Seek God as our healer! Just like we tell a doctor our symptoms, we should tell God how much we were wounded and need His healing touch. He will hear the cries of the broken. God the Father wants to reach down, take our hand, and walk us through our pain. It may take weeks, or years, or even a lifetime to close the wounds of our hearts completely. God will spend as much time and as many years as necessary to help us through it.

3. Reach out to others.

As God has reached out to us, so we should be an instrument of God to reach out and help others who are in pain. 2 Corinthians 1:4. Because of our own pain, we are able to understand and help in a far greater way.

Scripture tells us that Jesus suffered heartbreak after heartbreak. Isaiah 53:3-5.

He reached out to us by giving His life so that we can be healed! Can we lay our burden at His feet? Can we let Him carry our load? Can we let go and let God take care of it?


Jesus Cares

There is never a day so dreary
But God can make it bright,
And unto the soul that trusts Him,
He giveth songs in the night.

There is never a path so hidden,
But God can lead the way,
If we seek for the Spirit’s guidance
And patiently wait and pray.

There is never a cross so heavy
But the nail-scarred hands are there
Outstretched in tender compassion
The burden to help us bear.

There is never a heart so broken,
But the loving Lord can heal,
The heart that was pierced on Calvary
Doth still for His loved ones feel.

There is never a life so darkened,
So hopeless and unblessed,
But may be filled with the light of God
And enter His promised rest.

There is never a sin or sorrow,
There is never a care or loss,
But that we may bring to Jesus
And leave at the foot of the cross.

–Lilla M. Alexander



The word abomination appears in 142 verses in the King James Bible. Of these, six are in the New Testament. Two speak of the abomination of desolation (in Matthew & Mark), three are in Revelation in descriptions about John’s vision, and the remaining one appears in Luke, which states in chapter 16, verse 15:

“And he said unto them, Ye are they which justify yourselves before men; but God knoweth your hearts: for that which is highly esteemed among men is abomination in the sight of God.”

That brings us to the Old Testament. The rest of the verses – 136 – are found here.

Genesis and Exodus have three instances, all of which refer to abominations to the Egyptians.

Leviticus has 14. Many of these are in the Levitical law, and discuss things that the Israelites were not to do. These things were an abomination to the soul of those who participated. These include things that should not be eaten (the peace offering on the third day; any seafood without fins and scales; scavenger birds; flying things with four legs; creeping things) as well as actions (lying with mankind as with womankind; bestiality; offering children to Molech; profaning the name of God; lying with both a woman and her mother).

These are likely the most well-known of the things listed as abominations in the Bible, if only because of the ones that pertain to homosexual actions. However, as we will see, homosexual activity is far from the only abomination according to God’s Word.

Deuteronomy has 16 verses containing the word. The vast majority of these deal with the idolatry of nations that surround Israel – those they are in the process of conquering. God warns them not to bring the idolatrous activities and items into their households. One of the verses also refers to cross-dressing (Deuteronomy 22:5). Also, in the case of divorce, a man remarrying his first wife after her second husband dies is also called abomination (Deuteronomy 24:4). Improper measurements, presumably for the purpose of cheating people, also falls under this umbrella – followed by a very important verse. Deuteronomy 25:16 states:

For all that do such things, and all that do unrighteously, are an abomination unto the LORD thy God.

We see here that ALL SIN is abomination to God. This really only makes sense, if you think about it. What SIN could possibly NOT be an abomination to God?

1 Samuel has one verse, which mentions that Israel was an abomination to the Philistines.

1 & 2 Kings have 8 verses between the two. These all speak of abominations of the heathen nations – mostly idolatry.

2 Chronicles has 5 verses about abomination. These also all speak of the abominations of the heathen nations around Israel.

Ezra contains 3 instances, also all referring to heathen nations.

Psalms contains the word abomination exactly once: in chapter 88, the Psalmist is grieving about the loss of his acquaintances, stating that he was “made an abomination to them.”

Proverbs uses the word the second-most often, with 20 verses containing it. Most, if not all, of these discuss things that are an abomination to God.

  • The froward (3:32, 11:20)
  • Pride, lying, murder, devising evil, mischief, lying, sowing discord (6:16-19)
  • A false balance (11:1)
  • Lying (12:22)
  • The sacrifice of the wicked (15:8, 21:27)
  • The way of the wicked (15:9)
  • The thoughts of the wicked (15:26)
  • Pride (16:5)
  • Justifying the wicked and condemning the just (17:15)
  • Diverse weights & measures (20:10, 20:23)
  • He who refuses to hear the law (28:9)

Three or four of the verses speak of things that are abomination to certain people – such as an unjust man being an abomination to the just, and vice versa (29:27).

Isaiah refers to idolatry and wickedness five times as abominations, in a prophetic manner.

Jeremiah‘s 10 references have to do with Israel’s failings and the coming judgment for them – as well as the promise that if they will put away the abominations, they will be restored.

The prophet Ezekiel uses the word most often – 44 times. There is much discussion of Israel’s sin and that of the surrounding heathens – especially as it relates to Israel’s absorption of the surrounding nations’ habits and sins.

Here is an interesting tidbit. Do you know what the iniquity was that Sodom committed that resulted in her destruction? According to Ezekiel 16:48-50, God speaking to Jerusalem:

As I live, saith the Lord GOD, Sodom thy sister hath not done, she nor her daughters, as thou hast done, thou and thy daughters. Behold, this was the iniquity of thy sister Sodom, pride, fulness of bread, and abundance of idleness was in her and in her daughters, neither did she strengthen the hand of the poor and needy. And they were haughty, and committed abomination before me: therefore I took them away as I saw good.

Throughout the book, God makes it clear that sin is abomination and will be judged.

Of the remaining prophets, Daniel, Hosea, Zechariah, and Malachi are the only ones that use the word abomination, and all of them once except Daniel, which has it 3 times. These are all references either to Israel’s current sins, or to future events.

The reason for going through these verses (which you can look up with any good concordance, if you wish to view all 142 verses yourself) is because so many people choose one sin – that they themselves find reprehensible – and say that God calls it abomination. While they are correct about that, they often fail to realize – or admit – that every sin is equally abomination, and is called abomination in the Bible.

Again, it makes no sense to try to single out one single sin as abomination, because there is no possible way that ANY sin could NOT be abomination to God.

“Just Kidding”

“Just Kidding”

Proverbs 26:18-19 KJV: As a mad man who casteth firebrands, arrows, and death, So is the man that deceiveth his neighbour, and saith, Am not I in sport?

Or, to put it in today’s language:

As a psycho who throws molotov cocktails, shoots bullets, and causes death, so is the one who tells a lie and then says, “Just kidding!”

When I was a kid, I was an exceptionally trusting type (still am, to a large degree, but not as much as I was then). This made me a target for the type of person the verses above describe. I can’t tell you how many times people told me things then laughed at how gullible I was.

To those of you who do this, let me give you the perspective of the other side.

See, people like me believe you, and trust you, the first time you tell us something that isn’t true. You then proceed to laugh and ridicule us for believing you. While slightly more wary, we will often trust you a second time, since we have a hard time believing people aren’t trustworthy at first. But once you’ve ridiculed us for TRUSTING you twice, most of us will then stop believing you.


Since you made it quite clear that we were stupid to believe your lies, we are taught BY YOU that you are not trustworthy, and we should assume anything you say is a lie that is meant to bring us to further ridicule.

At this point, you start getting annoyed with us for NOT believing you, when you are telling the truth. But, think about it – how would we KNOW? You acted like you were telling the truth the other times, too, only to say “just kidding” and laugh at us for believing you.

If you are the type who likes to do this sort of “joking,” may I strongly recommend that you think twice before the next time you are about to lie to someone, and then ridicule their trust in you?